I've always wondered whether the things I'm doing now, and the choices I'm making are the right ones. Given the chance, I would definitely do things differently. I do have my regrets, and sometimes it does eat me up, cause I know I can't get over the fact that I'd never know what it's like if I were to make another choice, but I guess since I'm on the path of destruction, might as well I go with a bang, isn't it?
It's nice to know that there are people who care for me, or even admire the life I'm living now but TRUST ME, it's not as rosy as you'd think it is. Even roses can smell like poop, innit Andre3000? I'm just a regular girl, an average Jane, one you might see walking on the streets in her jeans and flipflops, while struggling to fix the strap of her bag every 5 seconds. I guess the choices I make intrigues certain people, and it baffles me at times that people would even want to poke their noses around to know what's going on in my life (Did I mention to the extent of adding the guy I dated/date's facebook profile).
OK so I kinda sat down, and figured out what to write about (I don't wanna bore my readers with my boring emo love stories) and ended up with a list of things that I'd want to explain to my readers and followers, without being rude or aggressive (I'm no longer the hot-tempered, vulgar girl who snaps at people). I know some people find it funny when I'm angry and start ranting but I guess I'm over that phase now (Oh no, I'm growing old and boring...and I wrote about CATS! *gasp*).. It might just be my PMS but these are the things that have been bothering me lately :
6 things that Annoys Hanie online
(and I don't mean it in a really bad way, I'm just ranting, sorry)
1. Please don't, for the love of God, add the boyfriend/guy I dated/dating on facebook when you don't know him. It's just weird to find people who are unlikely to be related to the guy on the friends request list. I KNOW your intentions, and don't pretend that it's just "to make new friends". It is annoying. And I might be nice, but that's just crossing the line of privacy and I am strict about it.
How would you feel if someone, whom you've rejected her/his request 4 times, suddenly appears on your man's facebook friend request list? Well, ok it's fine if you know him. Reason why I'm writing this one is cause recently I joined an online pageant contest. Well it's normal for people to bond through this, like how I've bonded with the girls from Modelle. BUT the difference is that I've never met you, so I am, of course naturally, a bit skeptical when it comes to approving your friend requests. So I left it there, one or two, that I know who are kind of abit competitive in the sense that die die also wanna win, I'd reject. Not to be arrogant or anything, there's no point if you wanna add me just to see whether I really look like the photos in the competition.
Well, then, this particular girl, added me again, in which I rejected lah only to surprise me when I saw her on Zen's friend request list...... like seriously........what has he got to do with this, girl?........and the weirdest thing is, why on earth, of alllllll people...ZEN? There's nothing on my facebook info that has his name. As far as I know I've locked my profile photo to private (unless if that's the culprit) but then again, why HIM? So it IS kind of obvious that she really is THAT desperate to satisfy her curiosity... If can see my profile photos already why bother adding him pulak? like wtf?
Cmon la people, facebook when I first used it, was really really sticking to the point of being a private profile. Only when you're connected that you're able to view the profile. It's much commercialized now (not that it's a bad thing business-wise) but because of facebook, people tumbled from grace as well.
How would you feel if someone, whom you've rejected her/his request 4 times, suddenly appears on your man's facebook friend request list? Well, ok it's fine if you know him. Reason why I'm writing this one is cause recently I joined an online pageant contest. Well it's normal for people to bond through this, like how I've bonded with the girls from Modelle. BUT the difference is that I've never met you, so I am, of course naturally, a bit skeptical when it comes to approving your friend requests. So I left it there, one or two, that I know who are kind of abit competitive in the sense that die die also wanna win, I'd reject. Not to be arrogant or anything, there's no point if you wanna add me just to see whether I really look like the photos in the competition.
Well, then, this particular girl, added me again, in which I rejected lah only to surprise me when I saw her on Zen's friend request list...... like seriously........what has he got to do with this, girl?........and the weirdest thing is, why on earth, of alllllll people...ZEN? There's nothing on my facebook info that has his name. As far as I know I've locked my profile photo to private (unless if that's the culprit) but then again, why HIM? So it IS kind of obvious that she really is THAT desperate to satisfy her curiosity... If can see my profile photos already why bother adding him pulak? like wtf?
Cmon la people, facebook when I first used it, was really really sticking to the point of being a private profile. Only when you're connected that you're able to view the profile. It's much commercialized now (not that it's a bad thing business-wise) but because of facebook, people tumbled from grace as well.
2. Please read something carefully before you ask a question or slam someone. This is really annoying, just that I hardly complain about it unless one or two person really pushes the buttons. In the blogging industry, you're bound to meet a few people whom my friend Chris, calls the 'keyboard warriors'. These people tend to go around the blogosphere, read something just at it is, make some stupid assumptions, then leave rude remarks. I used to get worked up with these kind of people, which added gasoline to the fire, and it turned out ugly. Now, I just say "thanks for your feedback, have a nice day ;) " which does the trick.
Another one is that, girls, if you like what a person wears, stop asking where did she get it, how much, are there any other colours, sizes, do they ship etc NO, we don't work at the store. And not that some people don't want to share, but really, would you want your treasured find, to be worn by 5 other people who knows you? If it's a common thing, like a Vincci shoe then fine lah we'd understand. And sometimes, yes, some of us lets you know where we got the items, like from an overseas order or something. There's this thing called googling, and I'm not the FAQ form. Best part is that sometimes, there'd be two three people who asked the same questions in a row. Before you ask, read the comments, you might find the answers there.
3. Sometimes I don't understand some people's behaviours. I admit that not everyone would like me, opinionated, loud and yes, I'm a girl so I tend to be bitchy when irked. BUT if you just simply don't like the person, why do you even bother going to her blog, make comments using the anonymous nick, and try to tell the world her secrets? Really ah, it's called a secret for a reason. Summore, what do you get when you see people fall because of you? Content? If the person is bad enough, God will punish. You're human, and punishment from you is not justice, and you bear the burden of trying to act like you have the right to judge. Remember that only God can judge, humans are supposed to help each other. Yes, you want to advice me or the rest of the girls around. But advising is personal, you don't do it so that the public could see. I know my religion background is not that strong, but Islam disallow their followers to open up others' faults in public, right? Correct me if I'm wrong (but don't la slam me say I try to change the sunnah la what la I was just asking mah).
If you actually send me an email, I do not mind at all to entertain you. Ask the rest who have, and yes, I do listen to each and one of you, so if you're really sincere in advising me towards a better future I do appreciate your concern. Means that you care. But if you write to me saying that I'm doomed to hell, includes my parents in the picture, adds in some vulgarities, is that REALLY the way? Is that how God taught us or the Prophet did it last time around? If you say that I won't listen if it's done nicely, then don't bother la! Why would you want to get angry? Is it realllllyyyy your problem?
4. Some people (yes, I heard and read all about it) questioned 'Why does Hanie need a fan page on facebook' - refer to this one. To be honest, there are a few reasons why. One - so that I could just redirect my real account to the fan page. Don't tell me you don't get requests from people you don't know, right? Well, I do try to entertain especially my readers, if I can. But I do want my original facebook account to be private to people I happen to KNOW and have MET in real life (No, I don't add everyone on my facebook) so the page, was my best solution. Some people were nice to not question me, and I still do talk to them on the page. Some, such as #1 I mentioned earlier, insists to add me on my original page, and some were making rude comments like this one, or even say coverline punya ayat like "oh, sorry I tertekan add friend" or "I didn't wanna add you in the first place anyway" like wtf 0_o
Second reason why I did the pages, were to aid me in communicating with strangers. Why would I want to entertain stranger, you say? Since I've said before that I don't. Well, I don't entertain people who simply adds me on facebook just cause they could monitor my wall to wall, or like EVERY damn photo I post (that's creepy mmkay, and yes, there ARE people like that) but I do appreciate my readers following me (in a good way of course) and I have to keep them reading, and also expand my blog network (no, I don't get paid for this so don't worry). So when I did a template, someone said that gesture made me, the 'model' sound arrogant, cause 'normal' people do get random friend requests too. Yes, everyone does get random friend requests, but instead of simply rejecting it coldly, why not I turn it into something positive...true?
5. People, on twitter especially, should slow down on the 'suggestive tweets'. It's really odd to be reading obscene things like
or
Another one is that, girls, if you like what a person wears, stop asking where did she get it, how much, are there any other colours, sizes, do they ship etc NO, we don't work at the store. And not that some people don't want to share, but really, would you want your treasured find, to be worn by 5 other people who knows you? If it's a common thing, like a Vincci shoe then fine lah we'd understand. And sometimes, yes, some of us lets you know where we got the items, like from an overseas order or something. There's this thing called googling, and I'm not the FAQ form. Best part is that sometimes, there'd be two three people who asked the same questions in a row. Before you ask, read the comments, you might find the answers there.
3. Sometimes I don't understand some people's behaviours. I admit that not everyone would like me, opinionated, loud and yes, I'm a girl so I tend to be bitchy when irked. BUT if you just simply don't like the person, why do you even bother going to her blog, make comments using the anonymous nick, and try to tell the world her secrets? Really ah, it's called a secret for a reason. Summore, what do you get when you see people fall because of you? Content? If the person is bad enough, God will punish. You're human, and punishment from you is not justice, and you bear the burden of trying to act like you have the right to judge. Remember that only God can judge, humans are supposed to help each other. Yes, you want to advice me or the rest of the girls around. But advising is personal, you don't do it so that the public could see. I know my religion background is not that strong, but Islam disallow their followers to open up others' faults in public, right? Correct me if I'm wrong (but don't la slam me say I try to change the sunnah la what la I was just asking mah).
If you actually send me an email, I do not mind at all to entertain you. Ask the rest who have, and yes, I do listen to each and one of you, so if you're really sincere in advising me towards a better future I do appreciate your concern. Means that you care. But if you write to me saying that I'm doomed to hell, includes my parents in the picture, adds in some vulgarities, is that REALLY the way? Is that how God taught us or the Prophet did it last time around? If you say that I won't listen if it's done nicely, then don't bother la! Why would you want to get angry? Is it realllllyyyy your problem?
4. Some people (yes, I heard and read all about it) questioned 'Why does Hanie need a fan page on facebook' - refer to this one. To be honest, there are a few reasons why. One - so that I could just redirect my real account to the fan page. Don't tell me you don't get requests from people you don't know, right? Well, I do try to entertain especially my readers, if I can. But I do want my original facebook account to be private to people I happen to KNOW and have MET in real life (No, I don't add everyone on my facebook) so the page, was my best solution. Some people were nice to not question me, and I still do talk to them on the page. Some, such as #1 I mentioned earlier, insists to add me on my original page, and some were making rude comments like this one, or even say coverline punya ayat like "oh, sorry I tertekan add friend" or "I didn't wanna add you in the first place anyway" like wtf 0_o
Second reason why I did the pages, were to aid me in communicating with strangers. Why would I want to entertain stranger, you say? Since I've said before that I don't. Well, I don't entertain people who simply adds me on facebook just cause they could monitor my wall to wall, or like EVERY damn photo I post (that's creepy mmkay, and yes, there ARE people like that) but I do appreciate my readers following me (in a good way of course) and I have to keep them reading, and also expand my blog network (no, I don't get paid for this so don't worry). So when I did a template, someone said that gesture made me, the 'model' sound arrogant, cause 'normal' people do get random friend requests too. Yes, everyone does get random friend requests, but instead of simply rejecting it coldly, why not I turn it into something positive...true?
5. People, on twitter especially, should slow down on the 'suggestive tweets'. It's really odd to be reading obscene things like
"I just bought a new bikini, least amount of clothing I ever bought!"
or
"I'm eating something white, sticky and creamy. Guess what it is"
or
"I'm watching him shower, what a sight in the morning"
LIKE OH MY GOD,
I do NOT want to know wei 0_O
and also tweeteers who seeks attention like,
"OMG I've a stalker. He's this guy from blablabla"
(that's not stalking, that's obsessed)
or
"Guess what color is my panties today?"
WAHTAFUKKKKKKKK.......
or
"My top is really super super super low cut, or my skirt is too short, one inch can see punani di"
(okla maybe it was not really like that, no one really uses the word punani anymore)
But heh, funny. It's fine if you wanna put nice, sexy photos. Yes, even I'd like to see it. Who doesn't wanna see a nice, sexy girl. Cmon now, be honest.
6. Blogs with music on...and a bad choice of music to add to it -_-"
Enough said.
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photos taken by Zen and I at I-City
(must go around take more photos already)
Punani....LOL
ReplyDeleteIf the person is bad enough, God will punish. You're human, and punishment from you is not justice, and you bear the burden of trying to act like you have the right to judge. Remember that only God can judge, humans are supposed to help each other.
ReplyDeleteYes, only God can judge. but i think u can judge urself whether u're doing the right thing or not according to ur religion's beliefs. Humans can help each other but u also have to open up ur heart. u're a grown up, u know whats wrong and right. u said Islam disallow their followers to open up other's faults in public, but arent u doing the same thing? exposing urself by posting photos that show ur own faults. u're more ashamed and irritated when people give advices publicly rather than posting photos that will make people or some readers have bad impression on you. It sounds so easy when u say God will punish when someone is bad enough. As if u're better than the bad enough people. even the Prophet pray more than we do and always think that he is not good enough even though he knows he will be in heaven for sure.
Kruel74: :P
ReplyDeleteJust Another Islam Follower: ok next time I won't even rant about this at all. I'm not ashamed, it's just that I don't like people comment on something on a post of something else, which was not related at all. Yes, I post photos on my life and yes, it's not following all the guidelines of the religion but I don't expect people to make up some extra irellevant stories lah you know. I don't mind people giving me advice, I'm human, learning and all and I never thought of myself being better than the bad enough people. I know God will punish me for all my wrongdoings just that I believe He has His ways lah.
I have to say this is one of most interesting post I've read on your blog (although I hardly surf your blog most the time). I do agree on the Facebook/Twitter thing is really just getting too common these days, which in my opinions does tend too break our own privacy of social-networking.
ReplyDeleteBtw, I do feel bad for the person who's still trying to criticize a small partion of your post.
Well written, Just Another Islam Follower! Right on point, without sounding like you're preaching too much :)
ReplyDeletehey hanie.i totally understand ur situation.its not easy when people judge u on the way u dress and the people u hang out with and date.just because u wear sleeveless automatically means ur a slut/skank not wife material.i used to date a chinese boy n because of that im a 'muka tak malu' person.so at the end of the day u just ignore the haters and listen to those who love you.those are the ones that truly matter kan? hang in there :)
ReplyDeletei dont know why but i think ure a bit harsh and blunt when u write.but i think better than before.maybe ure trying hard to say to people that ure a good person although ure sexy. i understand that. coz im a muslin , i used to drink, smoke club n all. and i always always tell people that im a good person although i do things like that and thats between me and god. but i cant shut peoples mouth kan. to me no point arguing , no point exposing things that i do. its like main api.but ure still baik pretty etc nevertheless :) well jst take care babe. maybe one day ure realized something more than this later in life which what i felt recently where i dropped everything. tapi once in awhile okay juga. :)) xo
ReplyDeleteNice way of putting it...especially no.5. Personally i dont give 2 hoots who is your fave guy-type, whats the color of your bra or where you get your fantasies from!:D
ReplyDeleteDone a great job being real and keeping it real, so thats alot more than those morons in here.. keep up the good job?
UNlike those attention-seekers, wannabe's and doofuses in cyberworld, their every move, step or thought must be documented....like who gives a rat's ass! So..keep it real. Cheerioz woman.
JJ
hahaha, dude, u on twitter yourself always makes me wanna puke hahaha
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