10 changes to better living

I can firmly say that it is crucial for me to make big changes in my life, since I'm slowly (maybe I'm just in denial) creeping my way into adulthood. I've learned so much but I realized that I've so much more than that to learn. The talks with my dad, and some older people taught me so much at this young age and I'm thankful to have people who are willing to listen to this kid ranting, but at the same time be patient enough about it. So here, my new resolutions towards a better living, ditching my comfort zone and living a better lifestyle, all towards a better future. If now isn't the time to change then I don't when will it be. I hope these ten things that people have taught me would be useful to you too. You don't have to do all ten at one go, but why not change at least one thing a day. It's like quitting smoking, do it gradually (Maybe it doesn't work on most people but there's no harm in trying haha)

1. Time management

I've neglected this part for years, even through endless nagging from my parents and only recently I realized that somehow, whether I like it or not, it is true. Time is the only thing that every human has equally. All of us only have 24 hours a day but how do we utilize that time, makes a difference. Dad told me that the successful divides their time accordingly and concentrate on what they're supposed to do, even if it's for an hour. So this time around, I've divided my time to learning, blogging, playtime and leisure, family time, time spent with boyfriend all accordingly and trying real hard to stick to it. It's hard. No one ever said it was easy but so far it is paying off. I'm able to do more things than usual (I used to be such a bum, sitting in front of the laptop all day long and just refreshing pages after pages). Of course I'll have days which I just don't wanna do anything and sloth around, and that is called rewarding myself.

2. Be true to yourself

This is an important asset I try to keep, despite the constant changes I face around me. No matter which group I hang out with, or the places I'm at, even if it's not my scene I will still be myself, personality-wise. There should be nothing that would change that, unless if you're spreading negativity around the circle you are in. So no matter what the rumours say about me, the people closest to me would know how I really am. What others say should not matter cause words go around, and you can't shut everyone up. Do not change who you are just to fit in within a circle, that would be the biggest mistake you'll ever do. However, if a lot of people are avoiding you, there must be something wrong. Try to find out what it is and do something about it.

3. Follow your instincts

I know I've made tons of mistakes throughout my life, and I'm still trying to redeem myself from some but I believe that by following my instincts, I would not stray too far off. Sometimes your instincts will lead you to the wrong things, but I personally believe that you gotta deal with the wrongs before you get to the right things. I believe that God won't just put the platter of good things in front of you but let you go through other things for you to appreciate the right when you finally find it.


So far, I've learned so much from my mistakes, I follow my instincts and never regretted it cause if I did not go through this, I doubt I'd have this mindset but I would've been a plain spoiled brat living off my parents, still.

4. Family members are your real friends

No matter how close you are with your bestfriend, or your group of friends, there will be no way that it'll should be closer than how you are with your family. At crucial times, you may depend on your friends, but you can't depend on them forever as they have their own lives to deal with too. At the end of the day, it will come to a point of every man for himself. At times like those, the only people you can turn to is your family. If your family foundation is strong, no matter how you are like, they're the ones that will accept your with open arms and shelter you with all their might. After all, blood IS thicker than water.

5. No matter how good you are, there will always be people who are better. Learn from them.

No matter how good you are at the things you do, there will always be others who are better at it. All you can do is step up your game, or try to be ahead of things to keep up the competition. It's also true that, healthy competition is good for you. It keeps you on the edge of your game, and make you feel more wary and cautious of things. You can't keep sitting in your comfort zone forever or you will never grow. Even if you hate someone, but if he/she is more successful then quietly learn from them. They are better off maybe because they have done something right.

6. Adapt to your surroundings, accept changes with an open mind.

I always believe that people who shut themselves up from changes are stubborn losers despite how comfortable their positions are. The world is changing, so should we. However, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that we have to follow suit of what other people are doing, blindly. It is good enough that we live in moderation where we take in what's good and throw what's not. Even if we're not really comfortable with the different environment we're being thrown in, somehow, we just have to deal with it. 

7. Go back to basics and learning to say sorry.

Knowing the basic foundation of your existence and your role to people around you is the pillar to feel contented with what you have. It is usually the part where most people tend to forget since we would be surrounded with tons of things that blinds us. Sometimes, it's good to go back to the basic of your religion too. Maybe you'll be more blessed and will find some peace out there while you talk to God.


Ego is the killer for most things. And when ego butts in, chances are that most people will not give in and say sorry. I guess there are times when even if its not your fault, you just gotta learn how to say sorry, suck it up and be the mature one. Cause really, it's not that hard. One word can make a difference, unless you use it a lot nonchalantly then it'll be a different story.

8. Throw away excuses out the door.

I can honestly say that I'm such an expert at this part. I used to have excuses for almost everything. Late = traffic jam. Skip classes = boring. Not doing homework = busy. But this year, my resolution is to stop giving excuses. I know that there are times where the excuses might be valid (traffic jam for real!) but most of the time, I try to eliminate giving excuses and instead say sorry and try to recover back what I've missed. In other words, I try to focus on solving the problem rather than rectifying it cause the matter of fact is that, there's nothing you can do to turn back time if it's done already.

9. Know your worth.

Knowing that you're worth diamonds is the first step to loving yourself. Sometimes, people will treat you like shit, despite what you have done for them but as long as you know what you're worth, it can't bring you down. In fact, it should just make you realize that you know you're better off, and there's just some people who are like that personality-wise. These people, will only know what you're worth to them when you walk off. If you can't take it, or they're taking advantage of you, despite you being sincerely loyal to them, help them when they need it, then there's only one advice I can give you - walk away.


You'll be better off without them, trust me. But janganlah you act like diva demand this and that like you're beyonce! That one also doesn't work leeehhhh -_-"

10. Not everything will go our way. Deal with it.

You may be able to buy your way into most things, but there will just be times when no matter what you do, it will not favor your way. Even if you think you're worth a certain something, not everyone will see the same. However, there will be other people who will see it, but you just gotta wait. If it still doesn't work out for you, chances are, it's just not meant to be. Deal with it, and move on.

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Now these are the challenges I'm currently facing, to remind myself each day of these ten things but as long as I keep to most of it, I know my day would be fine. Cheers towards a better future, InsyaAllah   =)








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A V E R A G EJane








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