OK, this is gonna be a very wordy post, skip if you're not the reading type.
You know how it is, you're hot, and you snag yourself a fine man, then you both get married, then have kids and next thing you know, you balloon up and start donning tees and mum jeans even when you go out in public. If you don't know what mom jeans are, here's a little horrific visual:
Well, it's a pity if you have the resources to look beautiful, doll up and all but you just don't bother. C'mon, it's not for anyone else but your husband. I know I'm young and I'm not married but I honestly think that women should remain attractive to their husbands for as long as they could. If your husband leaves or cheats on you even when you've done your best, then it's his loss, really. Take cue from hot Hollywood moms such as Angelina Jolie, Jessica Alba, Heidi Klum and so on. I know they have personal trainers, dietitians, and a team behind their hot bountiful arses to make them look good but it doesn't mean that us normal gals can't do the same on our own. After all, everyone's a superwoman, own it.
Here are a few things I think that might help women who are facing these problems. And hey, these are just my opinion, don't come around saying that this is against the religion lah, not suitable for Asian women lah cause at the end of the day, it is to make your marriage flourish and I doubt any husband would complain either. I don't deny either that each of us have our lazy days where we just don't feel like doing anything but bum and it's excusable but just don't make it a permanent feature in your lives. I know I wouldn't wanna frump down even after I get married. And me being young and unmarried does not mean that I shouldn't be talking about it either. You see, it all starts with the mindset. If you infect young minds with negativity, of course it will be full of it and vice versa, no?
1. Put on a little eyeliner and lipstick and doll up.
Even when you're busy with kids, there's no reason for you to not draw TWO lines of eyeliner or put on some gloss and powder. It won't take forever. And you'll look ten folds better, unless you decide to pile-on water colours on your face. Doll up a little, your man will really appreciate it. Put on a nice top, dress or even look simply fabulous even with basic tee and the correct jeans that flatters. You will look better than just sitting around in house shorts and faded tee with hair tied up in a bun. All these things don't require a big amount of money. Over the counter cosmetics are cheap, and you just need basics. Even when it comes to clothes. Even if you buy at reject stores, find cheap basic everyday wear that does not look like you've mopped your floor with it.
Here's a simple makeup tutorial by Youtube makeup guru, Michelle Phan. I don't use concealer and what not but basics such as powder, eyebrow pencil, eyelash curler and mascara, and lastly tinted lipbalm is a must for me. It takes a few minutes to do once you're used to it and make it a habit to at least put one on to look fresher. By the way girls, if you have thin eyebrows, PLEASE put on some eyebrow shader when you wear eyeliner or you will look like you've no eyebrow but strong eyes. Marilyn Manson much?
2. Have a day off, get some pampering done.
Once in a while, do get some pampering done. You'll feel good and confident and beautiful. It doesn't mean that you have to pay for expensive spa treatments. You can just do facial on your own at home, with those RM5-10 mask sheets sold at pharmacies. Shower with bath gels that smells heavenly (buy those aromatherapic tiny promotion bottles at Guardian stores for RM3-5) and spray on any body spray. It doesn't mean that you'll have to use expensive designer perfumes. Brands like Ajmal (located in Pavilion) has perfumes at RM60 per bottles and yes, I had people saying that I smelled edible (cinnamon + vanilla scents). You can just buy nail buffers instead of paying RM20-40 for manicures and it looks just as clean (I grew out of nail polish eras cause I felt that it made my fingers feel oily) so just keeping the nails clean and shiny would be sufficient. When you look good, you feel good, even a little =)
Using nail buffers allows you to take Wudhu' so don't make it an excuse to not make your nails look good and clean. It also promotes good blood circulation and makes your nails grow longer, healthier and stronger but don't overbuff it alright?
Using nail buffers allows you to take Wudhu' so don't make it an excuse to not make your nails look good and clean. It also promotes good blood circulation and makes your nails grow longer, healthier and stronger but don't overbuff it alright?
3. Being covered doesn't mean you can't be sexy inside.
Two words: Sexy Lingerie! Who says that being covered up means that you can't wear sexy lingerie. Even if no one sees it, it's a psychology thing where you'd feel sexy all day long. That will reflect on your confidence. My favourites would be La Senza where it has the right fit and it looks just as good. Who knows, you might be a bedroom Adriana Lima. Too bad we don't have Agent Provocateur here in Malaysia =(
For those married gals, a nice lingerie is like a wrapped present for the husbands. A present looks nicer when wrapped nicely, no? But it doesn't mean that you have to buy Victoria's Secret. You can buy those sold at blogshops (they're cheap and come in sets) and make sure you have a few - switch from corsets to babydolls to stockings and garters and also costumes for the adventurous. Your man will definitely love you more. Which man wouldn't want a sexy partner wei? They must be mad if they don't! Oh, add a little punch by wearing heels (make sure they're clean) and bedroom hair ;)
Do not let your body shape or cellulite prevent you from looking good in front of your husband. After all, he married you for who you are so this is an extra for him, no?
4. Stay clean.
Hygiene is a priority. Make sure you pluck underarm hairs or shave it, and also make sure your 'country' down south is clean and neat. It's not a pretty sight when a girl lifts up her arm and you see a bush. Stubbles are fine, I'm sure most men would understand that it's normal to have stubbles (cause they have em too) but not when you're so hairy you could compete with Chewbacca.
Smelling like fish and oil all day is such a turn off, so after going to the market, please shower. If you don't feel like showering on lazy days, at least brush your teeth and slap on talcum powder. I like those lavender ones from Johnsson&Johnsson. They work wonders. To feel fresh, buy those minty powders.
5. Strip teasin'
This is somehow a taboo topic to be conversed about among unmarried women especially in Muslim countries like ours but seriously, if I'm married, I would not shy away from these things to keep my husband around. If you don't know how to, there's no reason to not even try and have a laugh at it with your partner. At least you're both having fun, right?
Just secretly google videos of Dita Von Teese (not safe for work) and you will know what I mean ;)
Just secretly google videos of Dita Von Teese (not safe for work) and you will know what I mean ;)
6. Most guys dream of being with a MILF.
I have not encountered a guy who said that they're not attracted to hot mums. And these things don't come around easy, you gotta work for it. So why not fill up your husband's teenage boy fantasy by being a hot mum yourself? I personally find that ladies, who dresses nicely while carrying their babies on one arm and a nice bag on the other looks extremely hot. Being in confinement after giving birth actually does good things so jangan lah nak modern sangat and tak ikut pantang.
Everyone understands that weight gain is inevitable for most women during pregnancy but it doesn't mean you can't try to shed that extra weight off even a little bit. Least you can do is make sure that there's no excess permanent baggage. Try youtubing exercises (they're free!) and diet plans. But then again, us non-married also should start taking care of our bodies and do little exercises cause I see young girls who are sagging in all areas already at this age! Don't fall into that pithole! It does not also mean that we have to have supermodel bodies. We're not one. Keep that in mind.
Everyone understands that weight gain is inevitable for most women during pregnancy but it doesn't mean you can't try to shed that extra weight off even a little bit. Least you can do is make sure that there's no excess permanent baggage. Try youtubing exercises (they're free!) and diet plans. But then again, us non-married also should start taking care of our bodies and do little exercises cause I see young girls who are sagging in all areas already at this age! Don't fall into that pithole! It does not also mean that we have to have supermodel bodies. We're not one. Keep that in mind.
7. Most men would appreciate girls who can do chores (and look good while doing it).
Need I say more about this? Most girls I've met don't know how to cook. Ok, fine. Don't know how to mop and sweep..errr kayyy fine. But don't tell me wash dishes also don't know how to do! My parents has always taught me, if you meet your future in-laws, at least ringan kan tulang and help out in the kitchen. If not wash the dishes at least bring the plates to the back. If you just stick to your man, it's not only gonna do you any good, but it also makes you look useless. Some lucky women might have husbands who can hire maids but once in a while, to have dishes made by you, or even at least serve him a drink after he gets back from work makes a LOT of difference.
If you're at home and have no kids, serve him a cold drink in the tiniest skirt possible. Be his personal sexytary. He'd be a very, very happy man. And I'm sure it'll be a change after a whole day slumped in the office. And maybe, after a while he'd go back straight home instead of hanging out at bars or coffee shop with his friends.
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I hope these pointers help you in putting a little spark in that marriage of yours cause remember, just because you're married, it doesn't mean that he'll stay forever unless you work towards it.
But then again, men, don't be so one-sided cause it takes two to tango. I respect men like my father who dresses up my mum, sends her for spas and stuff so that she would look good. Don't go saying "I love you just the way you are", it's true at some point but it wouldn't hurt if there's extra benefit isn't it? At the end of the day, might as well look at your beautiful wife and make her look good rather than make other women look good cause that is the woman that you married anyway.
We women like to see some DILFs as well kay. Men who look good while carrying a baby is just as sexy as a MILF. Cue Brad Pitt, no?
Now, go prepare some romantic dinner for that man of yours while channelling some inner Alessandra Ambrosio! chop chop. No more blogwalking! =P
